Often when I coach clients, it's the things they talk about that they perceive as problems — they don't want it this way anymore. So often we get to start by looking at what drains their energy from them. What is energy drainage??
We kind of have to start there to overcome the initial obstacles, so I then have the opportunity to help the client move forward and be able to create a new pattern, a new strategy towards new goals.
What do you have in your life that is taking energy from you?? Is it the family, work, work colleagues or "friends" who whine and complain? Is it perhaps that you have so many things you would like to do, but don't have time?? Are you always behind? What is it to you?
Think like this;
1. What takes energy from you?
Is it people, things, time that is not enough??
Think through what it is that takes the most energy from you. Maybe it's something you can avoid or change.
2. Can you remove what drains energy from you?
Can you remove what drains energy from you, so that your life works or gets better if you remove it? It is a bit difficult to simply remove or isolate family members, so if that is the problem, it is important to find other solutions.
But if it is the case that you have far too much to do at work or at home, so that it takes a lot of energy from you - think about whether it is something that needs to be done. If it has to be done, do you have to do it? Or can you delegate it to others? If it's something that you have to, or should, do and that just takes energy from you — talk to your boss, say it like it is and see if you can find a solution where you can give up those tasks and maybe get other tasks instead , which instead gives you energy.
You may have a colleague who is experiencing the same thing. And you both can get more energy by creating variety if you swap tasks with each other (or at least a few). It's something that's good for the company too — that is, when both of you or more of the staff get more energy. If it is at home that you have energy draining, then talk it through in the family, how you could skip certain things, chores that you do today, or how you can vary the chores so that you create variety.
As an example, I want to tell you how we have been doing since about a year ago;
We have divided all the cleaning tasks into different areas, distributed them among the five of us who are in the family and run a rolling schedule of five weeks, where we are responsible for the different areas one week at a time. This means that you are responsible for keeping your area neat and tidy. But it also means that you, for example, determine the menu for the week if you have the kitchen.
Could you and your family do something similar, and in what way would it be better for you?
3. If you can't remove the energy drain — how can you change the situation, behavior, relationship, etc. so that it doesn't drain your energy?
The truth is that you can change most situations, behaviors, relationships so that they don't take energy out of you.
If there are situations that are difficult and take energy from you, how can you change the situation so that it becomes less difficult. Again, let me take an example;
If you feel that you have so much to do that the situation becomes overwhelming — you constantly have lots of items on your list, but you feel like you don't get anything done — do this;
- Write down all the things you have to do on a list
- Write down the time you think it will take to complete the task
- Look at the list, is there anything that is absolutely important that needs to be prioritized over the other things?
- Tackle the things that take the least time (up to 30 min). In this way, you reduce the number of things to be done, while creating a feeling that you get a lot done instead of being burdened by them being done. This actually gives energy instead of taking energy. It creates momentum.
- Then when you've done the thing that takes the least time — tackle the thing that's a higher priority. Then you get to do what is most important. Again, you create momentum and more energy for each thing you can cross off your list.
WE. Just fill your list with things that YOU (and no one else) can or should do.
Don't fill to-do lists just to make yourself seem important, or because it's easy. All the things on your list take mental power from you and they take energy to do. Maybe there are other things you'd rather be doing.
4. Choose how you want to perceive things
A great opportunity you have is to choose how you want to perceive things.
For every situation, relationship, thing, or event, you have the opportunity to choose how you want to perceive it. Most of the time, we perceive things based on our previous experiences and values. This is automatic. But if instead you start to question things and when you perceive something in a certain way you also ask yourself the question "What more could this mean?" and I promise you will have new thoughts and experiences.
Create a habit of choosing to perceive things so that they give you energy instead of taking energy away from you.
5. Find what gives you energy instead of what takes energy.
Create situations, do things with family, friends, acquaintances, make new friends, create new relationships — do whatever it takes to find or create at least two things that GIVE energy instead of taking energy.
Make sure to do it, or meet those who gives you energy - OFTEN. At least a couple of times a week.
6. Talk to your friends, focus on anything that gives you energy
The truth is that what you focus on is also the result you get!!
If you focus on finding the positive in all things, you will notice that you will be happier and you will also have more energy, just by thinking about things that make you happy and that normally give you energy
7. Go outside and walk or run
The absolute best thing to do is to put your list and all other things aside to get out and move.
The way you use your body, your focus and what you say to yourself determines your state. And there is no better way to change your mental state and get more energy than just going out into nature and walking or running. It creates new endorphins in the body and at the same time you get the opportunity to breathe fresh air and experience all the wonderful things around you.
Even if you live downtown, there are still wonderful things to enjoy. Look around. Be open to everything around you, open your mind and let yourself receive all impressions.
It will give you even more energy.
Always do your best and every day will be magical
